A married old-time friend told me last night that he has many pretty ladies in his office, but he’s slowly watching them grow older without any man marrying them.

He said he’s worked with them for five years now, yet he hasn’t attended a single wedding or even seen any of them go off pregnant. According to him, even their female boss — the Manager — is worried about the situation.

So I reminded him of how he started with his own wife: she was a contract staff in an oil and gas company earning about USD 5,000, yet she agreed to date him while he was still living in a one-room apartment.

His wife understood the principle of building with a man. And I told him confidently that those same female colleagues he’s pitying today would not have looked at him twice if they were in his wife’s shoes five years ago.

I also told him to understand something else: if it were men in the positions those ladies currently occupy, most of them would have been married by now.
He asked, “How?”

So I asked him, “How much do they earn?”
He replied, “USD 3,500.”

“And how many are they?”
He said, “Eight.”

Then I explained:
Give a USD 3,500 monthly job to eight men, and come back two years later — many, if not all, will be married.
Give that same opportunity to eight women, and the chances that they will still be single are very high.

He became curious and wanted to know why. So I broke it down:

A man earning USD 3,500 doesn’t mind marrying a woman earning USD 200 per month or even someone not working. His pool of potential partners is in the thousands.

On the other hand, a woman earning USD 3,500 usually doesn’t want to date a man earning less. And even if she does, she often won’t be fully happy with that decision.

Now think about it:
A man with a wide pool of 5,000 options still has the responsibility of approaching, proposing, convincing, and planning.
Meanwhile, a woman who wants a man earning more than she does must sit, hope, and wait for the right man to approach her — and even then, she’s still scanning for someone “better.”

So the real question is this:
How many men earning more than USD 3,500 are ready and willing to marry your colleagues?

Then I asked him,
“By the way, how many of your male colleagues are single?”

He said, “None.”

I told him, “You have your answer.”

The discussion ended there.

Let’s be clear: there are many men who genuinely want marriage — but there are far fewer women who are sincerely looking for husbands to build a home with.

About 90% of women today are looking for burden bearers, not husbands.

Don’t be a v!ctim.

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